When You’re the First One in Your Family to Go to Therapy
There’s a particular kind of loneliness that comes with being the first one in your family to sit on a therapist’s couch. It’s not just about explaining your feelings. It’s about translating an entire worldview. About breaking open ways of coping that generations before you needed just to survive.
Nobody talks about how heavy that is.
You’re not just going to therapy for yourself. You’re going for everyone who didn’t have the language.
AM I DOING OK? ARE YOU OK? SIGNS OF MENTAL HEALTH Issues You Shouldn’t Ignore (For yourself and those around you…)
It’s time to name the warning signs that too many folks brush off. IT’S OKAY IF YOU’RE NOT OK. CHECK IN WITH YOURSELF and others:
“She’s Not Her Ex, and I’m Not a Fantasy”: When Your Client Is Loving Someone Healing from Narcissistic Abuse
As a therapist, I often work with clients navigating the confusing terrain of early relationships. One of my clients—let’s call her Maya—came into therapy recently trying to make sense of a relationship that was both deeply affirming and increasingly destabilizing.
Maya is dating a woman named Alicia. From the start, she described their connection as electric, magnetic, soulful. They could talk for hours. The physical chemistry was undeniable. The emotional intimacy, profound. Maya felt seen, held, wanted—not in a superficial way, but in a way that made her believe in something sustainable.
Family Isn’t Always Safe: Setting Boundaries During Summer Visits
The first time one of my clients — let’s call her Maya — decided not to attend her family’s annual reunion, she shared with me how anxious and conflicted she felt leading up to it. She barely slept the night before, her stomach in knots, guilt tangled with dread. She kept hearing her mother’s voice in her head: “You know how much this means to your grandmother.” But what was never spoken in her family was how emotionally exhausting these gatherings had become for her — the subtle jabs about her body, the persistent questioning about why she was still single, the way the room would go silent whenever she spoke up about something “too political.” She told me that each year, she left feeling smaller than when she arrived. That summer, for the first time, she chose herself.
Break the Stigma: Mental Health Matters in Every Community
We can’t afford to keep sweeping things under the rug. In real time, we are in a state of collective exhaustion. Inflation is making it hard for families to stay afloat, racial tensions continue to rise, and communities of color are still fighting for basic rights and recognition. Add in the impact of constant police brutality, mass shootings, and political unrest, and you’ve got a mental health crisis that’s hard to ignore.
Independence, Autonomy, and Healing: Rethinking Freedom in Therapy
Freedom is one of those words we toss around easily — especially in the therapy room. We say things like “find your voice,” “set yourself free,” or “take back control.” But what does freedom mean when you’ve never felt safe enough to make your own choices? What does it mean when every time you tried to choose yourself, someone told you that you were being selfish, disloyal, or ungrateful?
“Strong, Silent, and Suffering”: The Emotional Education Men Never Got
Most men aren’t taught how to care for their mental health. They’re taught how to perform masculinity.
From early childhood, boys are conditioned to embody a narrow version of manhood: be tough, don’t cry, stay in control. Vulnerability is treated as a liability, and tenderness as a threat. The result? A dangerous emotional straightjacket — one that leaves men silently suffering under the weight of feelings they were never allowed to name.
Pride is a Protest: Mental Health, Liberation, and Queer Resistance
It’s June, we hope to still see across cities and towns, the rainbow flags flying high, fluttering from windows and storefronts. Pride Month is a celebration — yes, but let’s never forget that it began as a protest. The first Pride was a riot by people who were tired of hiding, tired of policing themselves to survive.
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Why Therapy Might Not Be Right for You
Honestly, at this point, everybody on IG, BlueSky, and their mamas swear by therapy these days. “Go talk to somebody.” “You need to heal.” And sure, therapy is powerful—it can change lives. But let’s be real: it’s not for everybody, at least, not all the time. So, before you book that first session, let’s talk about why therapy might not be what you need right now.
The Unseen Cycle: How Victims of Narcissistic Abuse Can Unintentionally Become Abusers
There’s a hard truth we don’t talk about enough: sometimes, survivors of narcissistic abuse can find themselves repeating the very behaviors that once harmed them. Not out of malice or intention—but out of unhealed trauma, fear, and learned survival strategies. It’s uncomfortable. It doesn’t fit neatly into victim/perpetrator binaries. But it’s real, and we need to talk about it.
No, It’s Not You—It Seems the Narcissists Have Taken Over
You’re not imagining it. The world does feel more chaotic, more selfish, more performative—and yes, more narcissistic. If you’re exhausted by people who seem allergic to accountability, allergic to nuance, allergic to basic relational respect, trust that. Your gut is not overreacting. You're living in the midst of a profound spiritual and socio-political reckoning.
Why Group Therapy Might Be the Right Choice for You
So, you’ve been in therapy for a while, and maybe you’re starting to feel like you’ve said everything there is to say. Perhaps the usual one-on-one sessions aren’t feeling as helpful as they used to, or you just don’t feel as connected to your therapist anymore. It’s totally normal to hit a bit of a wall in therapy sometimes. And if you’re starting to feel like that, you might be wondering if it’s time to switch things up. Ever thought about group therapy?
I know, the idea of sitting in a room with strangers and talking about your personal stuff can sound a little scary. But group therapy can actually be super helpful, and honestly, it might be just what you need right now. Here’s why.
When Attachment Styles Clash: Building Bridges in Intimacy
Our intimate relationships can be a place where your deepest insecurities and relational patterns emerge. Attachment styles—your subconscious blueprint for navigating intimacy—play a significant role in how you connect with others. When attachment styles clash between partners, the result can be a dance of misunderstandings, emotional triggers, and unmet needs.
You’re in Therapy… Maybe Your Child Needs It Too
Therapy isn’t just for adults. It’s a space for growth, healing, and breaking patterns—often ones you didn’t even realize were there. That’s a powerful journey. But what about your child? The one watching, absorbing, and moving through a world that doesn’t always make space for their emotions? It’s worth asking: Do they need therapy too?
The Hidden Costs of Chasing Perfection in Love
We see them.
The flawless Instagram relationships with fairy-tale endings of curated proposals and choreographed dances at weddings. Our IG/TikTok feeds are constantly flooded with images of couple goals, perfectly timed vacations, effortless communication, and partners who seem to meet every emotional need without fail.
But is this reality?
No. I’m not a hater but I’ve seen how the neverending pursuit of a perfect love story can often leave many clients feeling disillusioned, disconnected, and unfulfilled in the relationships that they do have.
Understanding Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and the Holiday Season
As the days grow shorter, many people may feel an inexplicable shift in their mood. While some of this can largely be attributed to changes in daylight, for others, it signals the onset of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). SAD is more than just feeling "the end of summer/ winter blues." It’s a legitimate form of depression that can impact your daily life. As we enter the holiday season—a time often depicted as joyful and celebratory—SAD can feel even more overwhelming. It’s really important that you understand this condition, along with why it happens and how it’s influenced by more than just the weather.
Honoring Nikki Giovanni’s Legacy of Growth and Humanity
Nikki Giovanni, a poet whose words and presence moved mountains. Born Yolande Cornelia Giovanni Jr. in 1943, she became a leading voice in Black Arts and Black Power movements. Her poems like Ego-Tripping and Knoxville, Tennessee captured the richness of Black life and imagination, blending sharp societal critique with deep personal insight. Giovanni’s book Love Poems won the NAACP Image Award, and her collection The Selected Poems of Nikki Giovanni is a testament to her range and brilliance. She wrote about love, justice, and everything in between with an honesty that resonates across generations. Nikki was also unapologetically queer, an aspect of her identity that enriched her work and underscored her courage to live authentically.
Why History Told Accurately Matters
Christopher Columbus, once regarded as a towering symbol of American heroism, is now widely recognized as a far more complicated and problematic figure. For generations, he was celebrated in the United States as the brave explorer who "discovered" America, his story woven into the fabric of national identity. However, this narrative conveniently set aside the brutal realities of colonization, disease, and devastation that followed his arrival. As more people confront the historical truths surrounding Columbus’s legacy, an important shift has begun to take place. Many are now rejecting the myths and choosing to honor Indigenous Peoples’ Day instead of Columbus Day, acknowledging the ongoing harm his legacy represents.
Redefining Success During the Holiday Season: Setting Boundaries with Family Expectations
The holiday season is often a time for you to connect with family and celebrate those familial connections with joy. However, for many of us, the holiday season can be a really stressful period, especially when it comes to the topic of family and setting healthy boundaries. In some households, setting boundaries may be really difficult. This season can challenge even the most centered among us as we navigate various struggles from your relatives’ expectations about how you “should” spend the holidays, subtle (or not so subtle) pressure to achieve certain milestones, or simply just old tensions resurfacing. This year, let’s redefine what success looks like during the holidays. It should not be based on meeting others' expectations but on staying true to ourselves.